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Taking the offensive
6. Be first to show interest in the other.
7. Go for one date at a time.
8. Avoid being defensive.
9. Take your time (go slowly).
Making time an ally.
10. Be attentive on a regular basis.
11. Be persistent.
Pacifying their fears and gaining their trust
12. Show you care but don’t say it!
Being irresistibly likable
13. Light up!
14. Show those pearly whites (smile)!
15. Speak with enthusiasm!
16. Talk positively.
17. Discuss the other person’s interests.
18. Use flattery.
19. Understay your welcome.
20. Be graceful when you’re (temporarily) rejected.
Exhibiting self-mastery and leadership ability
21. Plan out dates ahead of time.
22. Demonstrate independent thinking.
23. Communicate your personal destiny.
24. Be unpredictable.
25. Act indifferent to their opinion of you.
26. Don’t fish for feedback.
27. Express anger verbally when the right moment arrives.
28. Show forgiveness after expressing anger.
Inducing emotional dependence
29. Be there (in person)!
30. Listen reflectively.
31. Avoid being critical.
32. Express genuine admiration and praise.
33. Supply sympathy.
Shaking their confidence
34. Use silence.
35. Drop ‘em cold!
36. Create competition.
37. Break a date!
Keeping them interested and hoping
38. Resume contact (after temporary lull in the relationship).
39. Send mementos.
40. Awaken physical attraction.
Confronting diplomatically
41. Confront resistant behavior.
Demonstrating commitment
42. Hang in there!
43. Say “I love you.”
Removing final barriers
44. Strategically withdraw.
45. Enjoy being with the one you want!
*Taken from Love Tactics by Thomas W. McKnight and Robert H. Phillips*
*Copyright 1988 by Avery Publishing Group*
